Obligatory Dutiful To Parents
Allah Ta’ala says:
وقضى ربك ألا تعبدوا إلا إياه وبالوالدين إحسانا إما يبلغن عندك الكبر أحدهما أو كلاهما فلا تقل لهمآ أف ولا تنهرهما وقل لهما قولا كريما. واخفض لهما جناح الذل من الرحمة وقل رب ارحمهما كما ربياني صغيرا
“And Rabbmu has decreed that you not worship except Him, and be kind to mother your father with the best. If one of them or both of old age in pemeliharaanmu, then occasionally say not to them saying “ah” and do not be shouting at them and say unto them a noble word. And humble yourselves against them both with great pet and say, “O my Lord, love them both, as they both have little time to educate me.” (Surat al-Isra ‘: 23-24)
Allah Ta’ala says:
ووصينا الإنسان بوالديه إحسانا
“And We have enjoined man (do) good to two of their parents.” (Surat al-Ankabut: 8)
From Abdullah bin Mas’ud radhiallahu anhu he said:
سألت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم أي العمل أحب إلى الله قال الصلاة على وقتها قال ثم أي قال ثم بر الوالدين قال ثم أي قال الجهاد في سبيل الله قال حدثني بهن ولو استزدته لزادني
“I once asked the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam,” Charity is the most loved by Allah? “He replied,” Prayers in time. “Abdullah asked,” Then what else? “He replied,” Then devote to both parents. “Abdullah asked,” Then what else? “He replied,” Jihad fi sabilillah. “Abdullah said,” He is to convey all of that, if I ask for more, surely he will add it for me. “(Narrated by al-Bukhari no. 527 and Muslim, no. 85)
From Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu anhu he said:
جاء رجل إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال من أحق الناس بحسن صحابتي قال أمك قال ثم من قال ثم أمك قال ثم من قال ثم أمك قال ثم من قال ثم أبوك
“A man came to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam and then he asked,” Who is most entitled to kebaktianku? “Answer the Prophet sallallaahu’ alaihi wasallam,” Your mother! “He asked again,” Then who? “He replied,” Then your mother! “He asked again,” Then who? “He replied,” Then your mother! “He asked again,” Then who? “He replied:” Then your father! “(Narrated by Al-Bukhari no. 5597 and by Muslim . 2548)
From Abdullah ibn Amr radhiallahu anhuma he said:
جاء رجل إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يستأذنه في الجهاد فقال أحي والداك قال نعم قال ففيهما فجاهد
“Someone came to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam asked permission about to join the jihad (war). Then the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam asked him, “Are your parents still alive?” He answered and said, “There!” He said, “And strive in both.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari no. 2782 and Muslim no. 2549 )
Namely: mean behold in kind to both.
From Abu Hurayrah radhiallahu anhu of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam, he said:
رغم أنف ثم رغم أنف ثم رغم أنف قيل من يا رسول الله قال من أدرك أبويه عند الكبر أحدهما أو كليهما فلم يدخل الجنة
“He’s hurt! He’s hurt! He’s hurt! “Then he asked,” Who has woe, O Messenger of Allah? “He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wasallam replied,” Whoever finds his parents in old age, or one of the two, but he did not put in heaven. ” (Narrated by Muslim, no. 2551)
Namely: He does not devote to them that so he could get into heaven.
Both parents have a right of his children. So big, to the extent that the rights of Allah Ta’ala make them more mainstream than striving in the path of God whose laws fard kifaya. Even more than that, Allah Ta’ala confront them right after his right of monotheism. All this shows the magnitude of the position of devotion to both parents at the sight of Allah Ta’ala. Therefore Allah Almighty ordered the legate and every child to devote to his parents. And among the forms of devotion to parents is to obey all their orders which is good, condescending to them, loving them, praying for both of them with good prayers, and certainly true worship with Allah Ta’ala. This form of devotion to the parents the truth, that is to worship God properly, because all the rewards will flow to the child’s parents. So that the more religious a child then he is the most dutiful child because he has become since his parents get a lot of reward. And anyone who rebel against God then essentially he is a child who rebel against their parents, even though outwardly keduniaannya he meets all the needs of parents.
These are the rights of both parents, father and mother. Only Allah Ta’ala makes mothers more rights than fathers rights to his son, because she is a woman who is weak, more need of help, a greater role and services in educating children, and greater calamity that he feel in containing and gave birth to her son.
Then since the right amount of both parents of his son, Allah Ta’ala has forbidden disobedience to the second act, though it by saying as little as ‘ah’ as opposed to command them. So how else his sins if he is to yell or be rude to his parents, really it is a very big sin. Hence the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasallam prayed for the accident to every child who can not afford to practice filial piety to parents as a way to get into heaven.