Fostering Harmonious Household
Households who are happy and harmonious is the dream of every believer. Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam has set an example to us, about how to foster domestic harmony. Indeed in the Messenger’s self-contained example of the best. And a husband must realize that there is a hero in his home on behind the scenes, the carrier of calmness and coolness, namely his wife. Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam.
الدنيا كلها متاع, وخير متاع الدنيا الزوجة الصالحة
The world is full of pleasure. And best of pleasures of the world namely the shalihah wife.
Clever-pandailah Caring Wife
Therefore, a husband must be good at maintaining and keeping his wife physically and spiritually. So that could be an ideal wife, a good housewife and responsible. Harmonious atmosphere is largely determined by the good cooperation between the husband and wife in creating a conducive atmosphere and warm, not boring, much less tedious.
One example of harmony in the household Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam He was called’ A’isha radi ‘anha with pet and call him to preach the news that makes the soul’ Assia be very happy.
‘A’isha radi’ anha told as follows, one day the Prophet said to him.
يا عائش, هذا جبريل يقرئك السلام
O ‘Aisy (call pet’ A’isha radi ‘anha), the Angel Gabriel was greet you. [Agreed upon]
That is one example of how to create an atmosphere of harmony in a household that is called my wife to call pet. We still often see the husband who calls his wife’s offhand. Sometimes called his wife with the defects and shortcomings. Then the attitude of the husband, how harmony can be created? How might the growing sense of love wife to the husband?
Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, as the prophet of this people the most perfect and highest degree depraved-has provided a valuable example in this case applies both to the wife and in humility, and knowledge about women’s desire and jealousy. He sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam put them in position coveted by all women. That is being a wife who has a respectable standing beside her husband.
‘Aisha radhiallahu’ anha said:
كنت أشرب وأنا حائض, فأناوله النبي فيضع فاه على موضع في و أتعرق العرق فيتناوله و يضع فاه في موضع في
One time I drank, when I was menstruation, then I gave my glass to the Prophet and he drank from the mouth of the glass which I drank. On another occasion I ate a piece of meat, then he took the piece of meat and eat it right where I ate it. [Muslim]
If Need A plate Together!
That intimacy can be created, namely to create a sense of belonging, kinship and sepenanggungan. A plate of two, a glass together, eat congregation as well as some other things that is recommended by the Prophet to be conducted jointly by a husband and wife! Thus creating a mutual understanding of each other. Today we rarely see a husband that is sensitive to the feelings of his wife. The wife-style meal at home while the husband’s level as much out of pocket! Naturally when suspicion grows little by little. Even the few couples who bicker because of trivial matters.
Often Kissing Wife, Tabukah …?
Narrated by ‘Aisha radhiallahu’ may Allaah be pleased he said:
أن النبي قبل امرأة من نسائه ثم خرج إلى الصلاة ولم يتوضأ
Prophet never kissed one of his new wife then left memperbaharuhi pray without ablution ‘. [Reported by Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi]
Culture kissed his wife still seems strange in our society, especially the east. Even many who menggapnya taboo, they claim it as a western culture. But the assumption was refuted by the history that we had brought. Of course, kissed his wife is what we mean here is not kissing his wife in public or in front of the crowd. Actually a lot of wisdom often kissed his wife. Often we see a husband and wife are mutually indifferent. Sometimes the husband went unnoticed by his wife where her husband went. Rush off with a kiss, asking where he had gone alone did not have time. The husband hurried away to disappear, sometimes without saying goodbye and without greeting!? Let’s see how the Messenger sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam, along with his wives. To the extent that the Prophet took kissed his wife before going to the mosque.
State the Pain Love To Wife!
On many occasions the Prophet always explain clearly the high position of women in his side. They-women-have a great position and a high degree. Messenger sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam, never answering the question ‘Amr ibn Al-`As radi anhu around this problem, he explained to him that loves his wife is not a taboo for a man of normal.
‘Amr ibn Al-`As radi anhu once asked the Messenger of Allaah ل laihi wa sallam:” Who is the person you love most? “He replied:”‘ Aisha! “[Agreed upon]
For those who crave harmony of the household, should often read stories of ‘A’isha radhiallahu’ asha with the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam. And learn how to tips Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam happy ‘Aisha radhiallahu’ anha.
Aisha radhiallahu ‘anha recalled:
كنت أغتسل أنا و رسول الله من إناء واحد
I used to bath together with the Messenger of Allaah wa Sallam ل laihi than one vessel. [Bukhari].
Take advantage of every opportunity
Sediktpun Prophet never missed a chance unless he use to please and please her through things that are permissible.
Aisha radhiallahu ‘anha recounts: “At one time I went with the Messenger sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam, in a trip. At that time I was a slender girl. He ordered the group to move first. They were off before us. Then he said to me: “Come here! Now we raced. “I was meladeninya and finally I could beat him. He just remained silent on keunggulanku earlier. Until next time, when I was a little chubby, I participated with him in a trip. He ordered the group to move first. Then he took me racing again. And finally he can mengungguliku. He laughed and said: “This is the redeemer defeat ago!” [Ahmad]
It was a game that is very exciting and quite entertaining. He ordered the group to go first so he can entertain his wife’s heart raced with him. Then he combines the last game with a new one, he said: “This is the redeemer defeat ago!”
For those who travel often traveled the world and pay attention to stories of the top people and reputable, surely will be amazed to see the deed Messenger Shallalahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. He was a noble prophet, a leader who is always victorious, coming from a respectable ancestry, the tribe of Quraysh and Bani Hashim. At times tasted victory and return from a battle with a group of troops, yet he remains as a husband who is loving and humble towards his wives. His position as a squad leader, who traveled a long journey, and the victory after victory on the battlefield, does not make him forget that he was on the side he has faithfully waited for his wife who desperately need a gentle touch and whisper spoiled. In order to remove the heavy burden of a grueling journey.
Narrated by Imam Bukhari that when the Messenger of Allaah ‘alaihi wa sallam returned from the battle of Khaibar, he married Safia bint Huyaiy radhiallahu’ anha. He sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa Salla mmengulurkan curtain near the camel to be ridden to protect Safia radhiallahu’ anha from sight. Then he sat resting on the knee on the side of the camel, he’ll let Safia radhiallahu ‘anha to climb onto the camel with resting on his knee.
Sights like this gives the impression so deep that shows ketawadhu’an him. Prophet-that debuted as a leader and a prophet who was sent-set an example to his people that being tawadhu ‘to his wife, invited him as a footstool knees, homework help, happy wife, did not reduce the degree and position of his.
If we compare with the attitudes and behavior of the husbands present, sometimes their activities outside the home and other activities in addition to earning a living they sometimes waive the right of the wife. The wife no longer gets from her husband’s indulgence and entertainment. But who met the wife is her husband’s face berkurut like lime because of fatigue or annoyance outside the home or because of problems outside the squeezing? Instead of playing time or joking and bantering, sometimes there just is not time to chat! If such circumstances how could domestic harmony can be created?
Polygamy, Destructive Harmony …?
Islamic Shari’a to justify the husband to marry more than one wife, they were allowed to marry four wives if it has the ability for it. And the husbands are commanded to do justice to his wives, fair in the division problem and turn a living.
And, as already understood that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam married nine women who later became known as the Faithful Ummahatul radhiallahu’ anhum. Messenger is the best example in terms of dealing fairly with their wives, in terms of the division of a turn or other matters. ‘Aisha radhiallahu anha once revealed:
كان رسول الله إذا أراد سفرا أقرع بين نسائه, فأيتهن خرج سهمها خرج بها معه, وكان يقسم لكل امرأة منهن يومها وليلتها
Whenever the Messenger of Allaah wa sallam ل laihi about touring, he always gambled his wife. For those who are selected will accompany him in the trip. He divides the turn of each wife each day and night. [Muslim]
Anas following describes to us one form of justice, he told his wife. Anas radi anhu relates:
كان للنبي تسع نسوة, فكان إذا قسم بينهن لا ينتمي إلى المرأة الأولى إلا في تسع, فكن يجتمعن كل ليلة في بيت التي يأتيها, فكان في بيت عائشة, فجاءت زينب فمد يده إليها فقالت عائشة: هذه زينب! فكف النبي يده … ”
Messenger sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam had nine wives. If he had divided the turn for the wives, he just stay at home wife who arrived during his turn. Usually the Ummahaatul Faithful gather each night at the house where he spent the night. One night, they gathered in the house ‘Aiysah radhiallahu’ anha who was arriving the turn. Prophet held out his hand to Zaenab radhiallahu ‘anha present at the time. ‘Aisha radhiallahu’ anha said: “That Zaenab!” She quickly pulled her hand back. [Agreed upon]
That justice is exemplified by the Messenger of Allaah wa sallam laihi ل. But now we find there are still husbands who do the sunnah ta’addud (polygamy) which ignores the right of one of his wives. Even the tragic end in the waste of one of his wife’s rights, whether it is the wife of the first or the second. Because in the view of the Shari’a does not make any difference to the position of first wife second wife, third or fourth.
Let the husbands who perform sunnah ta’addud should emulate the Messenger of Allaah alaihi wa sallam in fair to their wives and in fulfilling the rights of his wives. So the Sunnah is not a scourge ta’addud in the household is often assumed would be depriving domestic harmony. Such assumptions have been refuted by the Messenger of Allaah ل laihi wa sallam, he proved that many wives is not to reduce domestic harmony.
Invite Wife Worshipping Together!
Thus the atmosphere of the household of Allah, such harmony can be realized only with the guidance of Taufik and guidance from God. One factor that harmonious household terbinanya even a main pillar is the worship together. The husband should ask his wife to worship together, like the night prayers together, shaum voluntary joint, and several other worship that can be done together. ل laihi Messenger of Allaah wa sallam had modeled it. He always recommends his wives to actively assist them in their worship and practice their religion, according to the commandment of God Subhanaahu wa Taala.
وأمر أهلك بالصلاة واصطبر عليها لا نسألك رزقا نحن نرزقك والعاقبة للتقوى
And command to establish family prayers and be patient in doing it. We do not ask thee Rizki, Rizki is we who give it to you. And the consequences (good) it is for those who fear Him. [Thaaha/20: 132]
‘Aisha radhiallahu’ anha narrates:
كان النبي يصلي وأنا راقدة معترضة على فراشه, فإذا أراد أن يوتر أيقظني
ل laihi Messenger of Allaah wa sallam used to pray the night while I slept crosswise in front of him. He would wake me if you want to pray Witr. [Agreed upon].
Messenger sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam called on his followers to pray night and recommend that a husband and wife should help each other in doing it. To the extent that the wife may use the best way for it, is to sprinkle water on his face! and vice versa. Abu Hurairah radi anhu narrates a hadith from the Prophet that he said:
رحم الله رجلا قام من الليل فصلى وأيقظ امرأته فصلت فإن أبت نضح في وجهها الماء, رحم الله امرأة قامت من الليل فصلت وأيقظت زوجها فصلى فإن أبى نضحت في وجهه الماء
May Allah Ta’ala bless wa Subhanaahu a husband who woke up at night to his prayers last night and woke his wife to pray together. When the wife was reluctant, he splashed water on her face (to wake). “May Allah Ta’ala bless wa Subhanaahu a wife who wake up at night to pray night and then woke her husband to pray together. When the husband was reluctant, he splashed water on his face (to wake). [Ahmad].
Keep You look!
Among the factors supporting the creation of a harmonious atmosphere is always keeping up appearances. A husband or wife should always maintain the appearance of each. Avoid the appearance of an untidy and unpleasant odors. Attention to the appearance of a Muslim lahiriyah as a complement to her inner purity, including one form of personal perfection. In this case the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam is the best example. He is a holy and spiritual birth, he loved the perfume and Siwak and his followers advocate for it. ل laihi Messenger of Allaah wa sallam said:
كان رسول الله إذا قام من النوم يشوص فاه بالسواك
Had not trouble my people, surely will I tell them to bersiwak each time to pray. [Muslim]
Hudhayfah radi anhu said:
كان رسول الله إذا قام من النوم يشوص فاه بالسواك.
ل laihi Messenger of Allaah wa sallam used to brush his teeth with Siwak every waking from sleep. [H.R Muslim].
Syuraih ibn Hani ‘said: “I never asked’ Aisha radhiallahu ‘anha:’ What’s the first thing you do the Messenger sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam, each time entering the house?” ‘Aisha radhiallahu’ anha said: “He started with bersiwak.” [HR Muslims].
How great is his attention to hygiene! he prepared as best as possible to meet the family.
He always read a prayer each time entering the house, as follows:
بسم الله ولجنا, و بسم الله خرجنا, وعلى ربنا توكلنا, ثم يسلم على أهله
In the name of Allah we enter (the house), and the name of Allah we came out (from him), and to our Lord, our sole trust. Then he said good-bye to his family. [Abu Dawud]
O my brother all the leaders of the household, bahagiakanlah family with a clean appearance and greeting when they meet. Thou shalt not replace it with insults, invective and screaming. Create harmony in your household and make your home as a haven for you, for your wives and your children!