Trick Towards Sakinah Family

Islam has given a complete and detailed instructions on the issue of marriage. Starting from the suggestion to get married, how to choose an ideal mate, do khitbah (proposal), how to educate children, as well as provide a way out if there was chaos in the household, until the process nafaqah (provide for) and the estate, all governed by Islam in detail , detailed and explicit.

Furthermore, to understand the concept of marriage in Islam, then reference the most correct and legitimate is the Qur’an and As Sunnah Ash Saheehah in accordance with the understanding Salafush Salih. Based on this reference, we will gain clarity about aspects of marriage, as well as a number of irregularities and shifts occurring in the value of marriage in our society.

Marriage is human nature, therefore Islam advocates for marriage, because marriage is a gharizah insaniyah (instincts of humanity). Subhanhu Allah wa Ta’ala says:

فأقم وجهك للدين حنيفا فطرة الله التي فطر الناس عليها لا تبديل لخلق الله ذلك الدين القيم ولكن أكثر الناس لا يعلمون

“Then with a straight face to religion (God), (remains of) nature of God who has created man’s nature. There is no change in the nature of God. (That) is the straight religion, but most people do not know”. [Ar Rum: 30].

Encourage Islamic Marriage
Appreciation of Islam against the bond of marriage, God mentions as a strong bond.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala says:

وكيف تأخذونه وقد أفضى بعضكم إلى بعض وأخذن منكم ميثاقا غليظا

“… And they (the wives) have taken from you a strong covenant”. [An-Nisa: 21].

To the extent that the bond is set equal to half of religion. Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam has said:

إذا تزوج العبد, فقد استكمل نصف الدين, فليتق الله فيما بقي

“Whoever got married, then he has completed half of his religion. And let him devoted to God in maintaining the other half”. [1]

Muslims Do not Like celibacy
Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam ordered to marry and prohibits harsh to people who do not want to get married. Rahimahullah Anas bin Malik said: “The Messenger sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, ordered us to get married and we forbade celibacy with a hard ban.” He sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam said:

تزوجوا الودود الولود, فإني مكاثر بكم الأمم

“Marry women who are fertile and loving. Because I will berbanggga with my people in the face of many peoples.” [2]

Once upon a time, three friends of g come to ask the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam about the worship He sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam. Then once explained, each wanting to enhance their worship. One of them said: “As for me, will be fasting all time without a break”. Another friend said: “As I would stay away from women, I will not marry forever ….”. When it was heard by the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, he came out as he said:

“أنتم الذين قلتم كذا وكذا? أما والله إني لأخشاكم لله وأتقاكم له, ولكني أصوم وأفطر وأصلى وأرقد وأتزوج النساء, فمن رغب عن سنتي فليس مني.”

“Did you guys have said so and so? Really sake of Allah, verily I am the most feared and pious to God among you, but I’m fast and I break, I pray and I sleep well and I also marry women. Whoever does not like sunnahku, it does not include golonganku “. [3]

Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala commanded to marry. And if they are needy, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala will help to provide sustenance to them. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala promises a relief to people who marry, in His Word:

وأنكحوا الأيامى منكم والصالحين من عبادكم وإمائكم إن يكونوا فقراء يغنهم الله من فضله والله واسع عليم. ”

“And nikahkanlah people who alone among you and those who deserve (get married) from your right hands possess slaves that men and women. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them of His grace. And Allah Area (the gift) again Knowing “. [An Nuur: 32].

Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam reinforce the promise of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala it with his saying:

ثلاثة حق على الله عونهم المجاهد في سبيل الله, والمكاتب الذي يريد الاداء و الناكح الذي يريد العفاف

“There are three classes of human beings who deserve God’s help. That is, the mujahid fi sabilillah, slaves who redeemed himself so free, and people who get married because they want to preserve his honor.” [4]

PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN ISLAM
1. To Meet The Demands of Human Rights Instinct
Marriage is human nature, then a legitimate way to meet this need is by aqad marriage (through the level of marriage), not in a dirty and disgusting, like the ways people today with dating, cohabiting, prostitution, adultery, lesbian, homo, and others who have strayed and are forbidden by Islam.

2. To fortify Akhlaq Majesty
Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:

يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر و أحصن للفرج و من لم يستطع فعليه با لصوم فإنه له وجاء

“O youth! Whoever among you capable of wedlock, then nikahlah, because marriage was more his gaze, and further fortify the vulva (genitals). And whoever is unable, then let him fast (shaum), because it can fortify shaum himself “. [5]

3. To Enforce Islamic Households
Mentioned in the Qur’an, that Islam justifies the existence of talaq (divorce), if the spouses are no longer able to enforce the limits of Allaah, as the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala in the following verse: “talaq (which can dirujuki) twice. Then shall refer again by doing good or divorce in a good way. not lawful for you to take back from something that you have given them, unless both fear that they will not be able to execute the laws of God . If you fear that they (husband and wife) can not execute the laws of God, there is no blame on either of them given by the wife paid to redeem himself. That the laws of God, then do not break them. Any person who violates the law -the law of God, they are the ones that wrongdoers “. [Al-Baqarah: 229].

So noble purpose of marriage is to implement Islamic law a husband and wife in the household. Enforcement of domestic law based on Islamic law is mandatory. Therefore, every Muslim and Muslimah should try to foster an Islamic household. Islamic teachings have given some criteria of an ideal potential partner, in order to form an Islamic household. Among those criteria is the need kafa’ah and shalihah.

According to the Islamic concept Kafa’ah
Kafa’ah (par, equal) according to Islam is only measured by the quality of faith and piety and morality of a person, not measured by social status, descent and others.

O mankind, We created you from a male and a female and made you nations and tribes that ye may know each other-knowing. Verily the noblest among you in Allah’s sight are those of the most pious among you. Surely Allah is Knower, Aware. [Al Hujurat: 13].

Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:

تنكح المرأة لا ربع: لمالها ولحسبها و لجمالها ولدينها فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك

“A woman is married for four things. Because of his wealth, his descendants, her beauty and her religion. Then let you select a devout religious woman (all Islamannya), surely you will be lucky.” [6]

Choosing The Shalihah
People who want to get married, have to choose a woman who shalihah, so women must choose a righteous man. Allah says:

الخبيثات للخبيثين والخبيثون للخبيثات والطيبات للطيبين والطيبون للطيبات أولائك مبرءون مما يقولون لهم مغفرة ورزق كريم

“… And the women are good for a good man, and men are good for women who are good also …” [An Nuur: 26].

According to the Koran, a woman who shalihah are:

فالصالحات قانتات حافظات للغيب بما حفظ الله

“Women who shalihah who obey God is to maintain self again when her husband does not exist, as God has kept (them)”. [An-Nisa: 34].

According to the Koran and the Hadith is authentic, among the characteristics of women who shalihah is:

a. To obey Allaah and obey the Messenger sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam.
b. Obey the husband and maintain her dignity when her husband or not there, as well as keeping her husband’s property.
c. Keeping the five-time prayers on time.
d. Implement fasting during Ramadan.
e. Many shadaqah with permission from her husband.
f. Wearing a headscarf that covers the entire private parts and not to show off beauty (tabarruj) as a woman of ignorance (al-Ahzab: 33).
g. Not talking and both-be a pair with men who are not mahram, because the three are satan.
h. Do not accept guests who are not liked by her husband.
i. Obey the parents in the goodness.
j. Do good to his neighbor according to the shari’ah.
k. Educating children with Islamic education.

If these criteria are met, God willing, Islamic households that will be realized.

4. To Raise To Worship God
Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:

.. وفي بضع أحدكم صدقة قالوا: يا رسول الله, أيأتي أحدنا شهوته ويكون له فيها أجر? قال: أرأيتم لو وضعها في الحرام, أكان عليه فيها وزر? فكذلك إذا وضعها في الحلال كان له أجرا …

“… And the husband-wife relationship one of you is charity! Hearing the words of the Prophet, the Companions of wonderment and asked:” O Messenger of Allah. Is one of us satisfy syahwatnya (biological needs) to his wife to be rewarded? “The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam replied:” What do you think, if they (the husbands) have intercourse with other than his wife, are not they innocent? “Answer the Companions : “Yeah, right.” He said again: “Similarly, if they have intercourse with his wife (where lawful), they will get the reward!” [7]

5. The Offspring To Acquire Salih
Including destination weddings is to preserve and develop the Children of Adam, as Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala:

والله جعل لكم من أنفسكم أزواجا وجعل لكم من أزواجكم بنين وحفدة ورزقكم من الطيبات أفبالباطل يؤمنون وبنعمة الله هم يكفرون

“God has made of the selves you were husband and wife and has given you from your wives, the children and grandchildren, and give you a good fortune. So will they believe in a false and deny the favors of Allah “[An Nahl: 72].

Above all else in marriage is not just a baby, but trying to find a quality and form generation, which is looking for a righteous son and devoted to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. As Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala:

وابتغوا ما كتب الله لكم

“… And seek what Allah has ordained for you (ie child)”. [Al-Baqarah: 187].

The meaning of this verse, “let you interfere with your wife and try to have children.” [8]

PROCEDURE FOR MARRIAGE IN ISLAM
1.Khitbah (proposal)
A Muslim who would marry a Muslim, he should be proposed in advance, because it is possible he was the groom by others. In this respect Islam forbids a Muslim woman who was the groom proposed by others.

2. Aqad Marriage
In marriage there are several requirements aqad, harmonious and obligations that must be met:
-. The presence of both consensual bride.
-. The existence of consent qabul.
-. The existence of dowry
-. The existence of guardian.
-. Presence of witnesses.

3. Walimah
Walimatul ‘urusy (wedding) is obligatory, and be simple and in walimah should be invited too poor. Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:

… أولم ولوبشاة

“Selenggarakanlah walimah even if only by slaughtering a goat.” [9]

VIOLATION OCCURRED IN SOME OF THE WEDDING MUST be avoided (eliminated)
1. Courtship.
2. Exchange ring.
3. High dowry demands.
4. Following the ceremonies.
5. Shaving for men and for women to shave the eyebrows.
6. Trust in the good days and bad luck in determining the time of marriage.
7. Saying congratulatory style of ignorance.
8. The existence ikhtilath (mixing, berbaurnya between men and women).
9. Music, singing and other violations.

Let us strive to implement the Islamic way of marriage and establish an Islamic household, and we are trying to leave the rules, know-how, ceremonies and customs that are contrary to Islam. Do not imitate the ways of the unbelievers and people who a lot of sin and sinners.

RIGHTS AND OBLIGATIONS OF HUSBAND-WIFE
Prompts Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam to marry contain a variety of benefits, as described by scholars, including:
1. Can lower his gaze,
2. Honor will be maintained.
3. Preserved genitalia of various immoral.
4. Will be helped and facilitated by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.
5. Can keep the lust, which is one reason he dijaminnya to get into heaven.
5. Bring peace in life.
6. Sakinah family will materialize, mawaddah wa Rahmah, as the word of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala:

ومن آياته أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواجا لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودة ورحمة إن في ذلك لآيات لقوم يتفكرون

“And among His signs is God, is that He created for you wives from jenismu own, so you tend to be and feel reassured him. And maketh any of you feel the love and affection. Verily in this is truly there are signs for people who think “. [Ar Rum: 21].

7. ‘ll Get a descent of righteous.
8. Getting married may be because the greater number of the Ummah of the Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.

There are some Muslims who had married and blessed by God a child or two children, then they limit the birth, did not want to have more children with a variety of reasons that are not syar’i. Their actions have violated Islamic law. Fatwa-fatwa ulama Ahlus Sunnah Wal Jama has been explained unequivocally, that limit births, or with any other term “family planning”, the law is unlawful.

Indeed many children’s many benefits. Among the benefits to many children and descendants, are:
1. In the world they will help each other in good deeds.
2. They will help ease the burden on parents.
3. Ruling on a charity they will be useful when parents can no longer do good (deceased).
4. If ditaqdirkan by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala children died as a child, God willing, he will be syafa’at (helper) for their parents later in the hereafter.
5. Children will be a veil (barrier) himself by the fire of hell, when his parents were able to make his children as a righteous son and shalihah.
6. With so many children, will make one of the reasons for the victory of the Muslims when blown jihad fi sabilillah, because there are so many.
7. Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam proud that many of his people. If Muslims love the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, then let him follow the wishes of the Messenger sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam to reproduce children, because he sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam in his community proud of the many doomsday.

If no children
If ditaqdirkan Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, a husband and wife were married for so long, but have not been blessed with children, then he should not despair of the mercy of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. Should he continue to pray as the Prophet Ibrahim Zakaria Alaihissallam Alaihissallam and has prayed to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala to grant their prayer. And should be patient and accepting qadha ‘and Qadr that God set, and believe that all that there is a silver lining.

Ruling please blessed with a good and righteous offspring contained in the Qur’an, namely:

رب هب لي من الصالحين

“Yes my Lord, Grant me (a child) that include people who are righteous.” [Ash Shaafat: 100]
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ربنا هب لنا من أزواجنا وذرياتنا قرة أعين واجعلنا للمتقين إماما

“Our Lord, Grant us our wives and our offspring the comfort of the liver (us), and make us priests to those who fear Him”. [Al Furqaan: 74].

رب لا تذرني فردا وأنت خير الوارثين

“Yes my Lord, do not let me live alone and thou warits best”. [Al Anbiyaa: 89].

Hopefully God is righteous descendants l give to couples who have not been blessed with children.

RIGHTS OF WIFE HUSBAND TO BE FILLED
Among the obligations and rights are as contained in the words of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, the Companions Haidah Muawiyah ibn Muawiyah ibn Ka’b bin Al Qusyairy radi’ anhu [10], he said: I have asked , “O Messenger of Allah, what rights a wife that must be met by her husband?” The Messenger sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam replied:

أن تطعمها إذا طعمت وتكسوها إذا اكتسيت ولا تضرب الوجه ولا تقبح ولا تهجر إلا في البيت

1. You feed her when you eat,
2. You give him clothes when you get dressed,
3. Thou shalt not hit his face, and
4. Thou shalt not menjelek-jelekkannya, and
5. Thou shalt not leave him, but inside the house (do not separate beds but in the house). [11]

Teaching the Science of Religion
In addition to the above rights must be fulfilled by a husband, a husband must also teach the teachings of Islam to his wife.

Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala says:

ياأيها الذين آمنوا قوا أنفسكم وأهليكم نارا وقودها الناس والحجارة عليها ملائكة غلاظ شداد لا يعصون الله ما أمرهم ويفعلون ما يؤمرون

“O ye who believe, guard yourselves and your families from hellfire the fuel (made of) men and stones, guardian angels is a hard rough again, who does not disobey (command) of Allah in what He commands them and always doing what was ordered. ” [At Tahrim: 6].

For this reason, the husband’s obligation to equip themselves with studying syar’i (thalabul ‘ilmi) by attending assemblies that teach the science of the Qur’an and As Sunnah in accordance with the understanding Salafush generation of the best-Salih, who received assurances from God – so that such provision, able to teach it to attack husband and wife, children and their families. If he could not teach them, a husband and wife must take their studies and attend syar’i taklim assemblies that teach about Aqeedah, Tawheed mengikhlaskan religion to God, and teaches about purification, ablution ‘, prayer, and other manners.

RIGHTS OF HUSBAND WIFE TO BE FILLED
Obedience To Husband Wife.
After the guardians (parents) the wife submit to her husband, then the obligation of obedience to the husband becomes the supreme right to be met, after Meekly obligations to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and His Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. As word of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam:

لو كنت آمرا أحدا أن يسجد لأ حد لأمرت المرأة أن تسجد لزوجها

‘If I could sent a bow to someone, then I would tell a woman prostrate to her husband. “[12]

The wife must obey her husband, in doing good things (containing the goodness in terms of religion), for example, when ordered to prayer, fasting, wearing Muslim clothing, attend assemblies science, and other forms of commands as long as not contrary to the shari’ah ‘at. This is what it will bring heaven to them, as the words of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam:

إذا صلت المرأة خمسها, وصامت شهرها, وحصنت فرجها, وأطاعت بعلها, دخلت من أي أبواب الجنة شاءت

“When a woman working on a five-time prayers, fasting during Ramadan, keeping his cock, keeping his honor and he was obedient to her husband, surely he will enter Paradise from any door of heaven that he wants”. [13]

Wife Must Much Gratitude And Not Much Demand.
This command is highly emphasized in Islam, even Allaah will not see it on the Day of Resurrection, when his wife to her husband demanding and ungrateful to him.

Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:

أريت النار, فإذا أكثر أهلها النساء. يكفرن. قيل: أيكفرن بالله? يكفرن العشير, ويكفرن الإحسان, لو أحسنت إلى إحداهن الدهر, ثم رأت منك شيئا, قالت: ما رأيت منك خيرا قط

“I am shown Hell and saw most of the inhabitants of hell are women.” Companions asked: “For what makes them most inhabit hell?” The Messenger sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam replied: “With cause kufr”. Companions asked: ‘Was it because their unbelief in God? “The Messenger sallallaahu’ alaihi wa sallam replied:” (No), they told her husband and their Kufr Kufr to goodness. If a husband than you do good to his wife for a year, then his wife saw something bad on her husband, then she says’ I never see the good in you. “[14]

Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:

لاينظر الله إلى امرأة لاتشكر لزوجها وهي لا تستغني عنه

“Verily Allah will not look to a woman who is not grateful to her husband, and he always demanded (do not get enough).” [15]

Compulsory Wife Doing Good To Husband
Ihsan deeds (good) a husband must be rewarded also with actions similar or better. The wife should be submissive to her husband and fulfill the mandate to take care of her children according to Islamic law is noble. Allaah made it compulsory for him to take care of her husband, taking care of the household, taking care of her children.

Advice To Husband-Wife
1. Fear Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala in a state together or individually, at home or outside the home.
2. Shall enforce obedience to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and maintain the boundaries of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala in the family.
3. Duty to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and ask Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. Men must pray five times a day at the mosque in congregation. And instructed the children to pray on time.
4. Upholding the sunnah prayers, especially the night prayers.
5. Expand the dhikr of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. Read the Qur’an every day, especially surat Al-Baqarah. Read all prayer and dhikr that has been taught by Rasululah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam. Remember that Satan is not pleased with the integrity of households and the devil always tries scatters suamiisteri. And teach children to read the Qur’an and dhikr.
6. Be patient on the plight and grateful to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala for any pleasure.
7. Constantly berintropeksi between spouses. Encourage one another, mutual help and mema’afkan and pray for. Do not be selfish and prestige.
8. Devoted to both parents.
9. Educating children to be children who are righteous, teach about doctrinal camps, worship and morality are true and noble.
10. Keep children from harmful media faith and conviction and character.

SPECIAL ADVICE TO HUSBAND
O husband!
1. What is against you, O servant of God, to smile in front of your wife when you get to see him, so you reap the rewards from Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala?!
2. What a burden for the bright-faced when you see his wife and children?! You will be rewarded?!
3. What is difficult when you come into the house while saying hello perfectly: “Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh” so you get thirty good?!
4. What will happen to you about if you say to your wife with a good word, so he meridhaimu, even in speech is a bit forced?!
5. Is the trouble-O servant of God if you pray: “O Allah! Amend your wife, and give blessings to him. ”
6. Do you know that soft speech is Sadaqah?!

ADVICE FOR WIFE
O wife!
1. Do bother you, if you see your husband when he entered the house with bright smiling faces sweet?!
2. Berhiaslah for your husband and go for a reward from Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, Allah is beautiful and loves beauty, use perfume! Bercelaklah! Dress with a beautiful dress that you have to welcome the arrival of your husband. Remember, do not ever thou grim-faced and scowling in front of him.
3. Be thou a wife who has gracefully nature, calm and always remember Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala in all circumstances.
4. Educate your children well, fill your house with beads, Takbir, tahmid and tahlil and perbanyaklah read the Qur’an, Surat al-Baqarah in particular, because the letter can be cast out Satan
5. Bangunkanlah your husband to pray at night, he anjurkanlah sunnah to fast and remind him again about the virtues of berinfak, and do not forbid to bersilaturahim.
6. Expand seek forgiveness for yourself, your husband, your parents, and all the Muslims, and berdo’alah always to be descendants of the righteous and obtain good of the world and the hereafter, But know that your Lord heareth prayer. As Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala:

وقال ربكم ادعوني أستجب لكم

“And your Rabb says:” Berdo’alah to Me, surely I will grant to you. “[Al-Mu’min: 60].

Leadership Men Top Women
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala says:

الرجال قوامون على النساء بما فضل الله بعضهم على بعض وبما أنفقوا من أموالهم فالصالحات قانتات حافظات للغيب بما حفظ الله واللاتي تخافون نشوزهن فعظوهن واهجروهن في المضاجع واضربوهن فإن أطعنكم فلا تبغوا عليهن سبيلا إن الله كان عليا كبيرا

“The man is a leader for women, because Allah hath sebahagian their (male) on sebahagian another (female), and because they (men) have spend of their property. Therefore, it is a righteous woman who obey God is to maintain self again when her husband was not there, because God has preserved (they are). The women nusyuznya ye fear, admonish them and separate them in their beds, and beat them . Then if they menta’atimu, then do not search for a way to troubling. Allah Most High and Most Great “. [An-Nisa: 34].

OBLIGATION TO EDUCATE CHILDREN
The husband as head of the household must provide a good example in carrying out its responsibilities, because Allaah will question it in day Saints.

Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said:

كلكم راع, وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته, والأمير راع, والرجل راع على أهل بيته, والمرأة راعية على بيت زوجها وولده, ألا فكلكم راع وكلكم مسؤول عن رعيته

“You all are leaders, and all of you responsible for those they lead. A Amir (King) is the leader, the man was the leader of his family, and women are also a leader for her husband’s home and her children, remember that you all are leaders and all of you will be asked to account for his leadership. “[17]

A husband must strive earnestly to become a righteous husband, by studying the religious sciences, to understand and implement and practice what is commanded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and His Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and abstain from each of which is prohibited by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and His Messenger sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. Then he took and led his wife to do so as well, so his children would follow his parents, because the nature of children do tend to mimic what is around him.

1. Educating children in ways that are good and patient, so that they know and love Allaah, who created it and the whole universe, to know and love the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, which in itself he found a noble role models, and that they know and understand Islam to practiced.

2. At an early age (around 2-3 years), we teach them sentences as well as reading the Qur’an, as exemplified by the Companions and the generation and tabi’ut tabi’in tabi’in, so many of them who had memorized the Qur’an at a very young age.

3. Attention to prayer must also be a priority for the parents to their children.

4. Attention parents to their children also in terms akhlaqnya, and who should be the main emphasis is morality (filial) to parents.

5. Also note his social friends, because it could be very bad influence on his friend would affect his behavior and morality.

6. In addition to efforts undertaken to make his wife into a shalihah wife, the husband should also offer up a prayer to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala at times efficacious (terkabulkannya prayer time), as the last third of the night, so his family made a righteous family, and household given sakinah, mawaddah wa Rahmah, such as the prayer contained in the Qur’an:

والذين يقولون ربنا هب لنا من أزواجنا وذرياتنا قرة أعين واجعلنا للمتقين إماما

“And the people who prayed:” O Allah, Grant us, our wives, our descendants as the comfort of our hearts and make us priests to those who fear Him “. [Al-Furqan: 74].

At the very least, a husband should be a role model in his family, respected by his wife and children, then they become the servants of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala is righteous and shalihah, devoted to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.

Here tips that should be a Muslim and Muslim to do to realize sakinah family. Wallaahu a’lam shawab bish.

MARAJI ‘
1. ‘Isyratun Nisaa’, Imam Ahmad ibn Abu Abdirrahman Syu’aib ibn ‘Ali An Nasa-i, tahqiq and ta’liq’ Amir ‘Ali’ Umar, Ed. Maktabah As Sunnah, Cairo, Th. 1408 H.
2. Phys Zifaf Adabuz Muthahharah Al Sunna, ta’lif (work) Shaykh Muhammad al-Albani Nashiruddin, Ed. Daarus Regards, Th. 1423 H.
3. Fii-ul Irwaa Ghaliil Takhriji Ahaadits Manaaris Sabil, Shaykh Muhammad Al-Albani Nashiruddin. Ed. Al Maktab Al Islami.
4. Fii Al Insyirah Adaabin Marriage, ta’lif Abu Ishaq al Huwaini Al Atsari, Ed. II, Book Dar Al Arabi, Th. 1408 H.
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6. Tuhfatul ‘Flow, Sheikh Mahmud Mahdi al Istanbuli.
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Footnote
[1]. HR Ath-Thabrani in the book Mu’jamul Ausath and Sheikh Al Albani rahimahullah menghasankannya. See pedigree Al ahadith Ash Saheehah, no. 625.
[2]. Reported by Abu Dawud, no. 2050, An Nasa-i (VI/65-66), Al-Hakim (II/162), Al-Bayhaqi (VII/81) from Ma’qil ibn Yasar and classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albani rahimahullah in Irwaa-ul Ghaliil, no . 1784.
[3]. Bukhari no. 5063, Muslim, no. 1401, Ahmad (III/241, 259, 285), An Nasa-i (IV/60) and Al-Bayhaqi (VII/77) from friends of Anas ibn Malik radi ‘anhu.
[4]. HR Ahmad (II/251 and 437), An Nasa-i (VI/61), At-Tirmidhi no. 1655, Ibn Majah no. 2518 and Al-Hakim (II/160-161) of the companions of Abu Hurayrah. At-Tirmidhi Lafazh belonged, he said: “This hadith hasan”.
[5]. HR Ahmad (I/424, 425, 432), Bukhari no. 1905, 5065, 5066, Muslim (IV/128), At-Tirmidhi no. 1081, An Nasa-i (VI/56-58), Ad Darimi (II/132) and Al-Bayhaqi (VII/77) from friends of Abdullah ibn Mas’ud radi ‘anhu.
[5]. Bukhari no. 5090, Muslim, no. 1466, Abu Dawud no. 2047, Nasa’i (6 / 68), 1858 Ibn Majah, Ahmad (2 / 428) of the companions of Abu Hurayrah.
[6]. Bukhari no. 5090, Muslim, no. 1466, Abu Dawud no. 2047, Nasa’i (6 / 68), 1858 Ibn Majah, Ahmad (2 / 428) of the companions of Abu Hurayrah.
[7]. Reported by Muslim, no. 1006, and Ahmad (5/167-168), Ibn Hibban no. 1298 (Mawarid) of the companions of Abu Dhar z. Lafazh belongs to Muslims.
[8]. Tafsir Ibn Kathir (I/236), Ed. Daarus Regards.
[9]. Bukhari no. 5155, Muslim, no. 1427, Abu Dawud no. 2109, At-Tirmidhi no. 1094, An Nasa-i (VI/119-120), Ad Darimi (II/143), Ahmad (III/190, 271) from the Companions Anas ibn Malik radi ‘anhu.
[10]. Taqribut Tahdheeb (II/195 no. 6779).
[11]. Abu Dawud no. 2142, Ibn Majah no. 1850 and Ahmad (IV/447, V / 3.5), Ibn Hibban (no. 1286-Mawarid), Al-Bayhaqi (VII/295, 305, 466, 467), Al Baghawi in Syarhus Sunnah (IX/159-160 ) no. 2330, An Nasa-i in Isyratun Nisaa ‘no. 289 with a saheeh isnaad, Irwaa-ul Ghalil no. 2033. This hadith is classed as saheeh by al-Hakim, and Ibn Hibban Dzahabi Adh.
[12]. 1159 Tirmidhi, Ibn Al Mawarid Hibban 1291 and Al-Bayhaqi (7 / 291) of the companions of Abu Hurayrah. It is owned by At-Tirmidhi lafazh, he said, “This hadeeth is hasan saheeh.” This is narrated from some companions. See Irwaul Ghalil no. 1998.
[13]. Ibn Hibban no. 1296-Mawarid, Mawaridu Zham’an Saheeh, no. 1081 of the companions of Abu Hurayrah. This hadeeth is hasan saheeh. See Adabuz Zifaf, pp. 286.
[14]. Bukhari no. 29, 1052, 5197 and Muslim no. 907 (17), Abu ‘Awaanah (II/379-380), Malik (I/166-167) no. 2, An Nasa-i (III/146, 147, 148) and Al-Bayhaqi (VII/294), from a friend of Ibn ‘Abbas and narrated also from some friends of radi’ anhum.
[15]. An HR Nasa-i in the book Isyratin Nisaa ‘no. 249, Al-Hakim (II/190) and Al-Bayhaqi (VII/294) from friends of Abdullah ibn Amr radi ‘anhu. Al-Hakim said, “This hadeeth is saheeh sanadnya,” and agreed upon by Imam Adh Dzahabi.
[16]. Summarized from Fiqhut Ta’aamul bayn Zaujaini Az Wa Min Baitin Qabasat Nubuwwah (pp. 107-112) ta’lif Mustafa Abu Abdillah ibn al ‘Adawi, Ed. I, Darul Qasim.
[17]. Bukhari no. 893, 5188, Muslim, no. 1829, Ahmad (II / 5, 54, 111) of the companions of Ibn Umar ‘anhuma.
[18]. To know more clearly about Kiat-Kiat Towards Sakinah Family, please read the book A Special Gift To the Sakinah Family, by the Author.

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